A: Teach your child right from wrong consistently from a young age. A child’s understanding of right and wrong develops slowly. Be consistent and reward you child for good behavior with smiles, hugs, attention, praise and thanks and limit attention for defiant behavior like tantrums. Teach your child acceptable ways to show that she’s upset. Be clear and consistent when disciplining your child. Explain and show the behavior that you expect from her. Let your child make some decisions on his or her own (for instance with toddlers, you might ask “do you want to wear the yellow shirt, or the red shirt today?” or “Do you want to brush your teeth or put your PJs on first?”)
Let your kids know that everyone makes mistakes and even bad choices something and that you still love them, even when you don't love their behavior. Give your child attention and praise when she follows instructions and shows positive behavior and limit attention for defiant behavior like tantrums. Teach your child acceptable ways to show that she’s upset.